EY Y03 L12 Empty Nesters


  1. Do you live in a 3 generation household? If no, how many generations do you live with? There are many advantages to living in 3 generation households, name one.
  2. There are many disadvantages. Name one.
  3. Have you ever lived alone? If yes, explain how that felt at first compared to living as part of a family. If no, do you think you are the kind of person who would enjoy and be good at living alone? Why?
  4. Empty nesters are individuals or couples whose children have grown and left home but who stay in the family home rather than downsize. Tell us about an empty nester who you know (it can be your parent(s), a friend, a colleague or a family friend). How many kids were there in the family home before the kids left? When did the last kid move out? Did they react well or badly to becoming an empty nester? Why?
  5. There are many things that empty nesters can do that they couldn't do when they were still looking after children. Name something that Japanese empty nesters often get involved in.
  6. Have you become an empty nester? If yes, how do you feel about that? Is it 'freedom at last!' or do you feel lonely now that your kids have moved out? If no, how do you think you would feel?

Question 1

No, I currently live alone but I used to live with my parents before I moved abroad. One advantage that I can think of is getting experience and life lessons from one's grandparents. I guess it also decreases the chance of being lonely.

Question 2

While I have never experienced it firsthand, I heard that many wives experience constant pressure from their husband's parents. There are expectations that just aren't realistic especially in this day and age.

Question 3

I'm currently living alone. It felt absolutely terrible at first since I was dependent on a lot of people such as my mother and my housemaids when I was still living with my parents. I don't really mind it now as I don't spend that much time at home.

Question 4

A friend's mother is now an empty nester. She used to live with three children but her youngest child left around 5 years ago. Her husband doesn't live with her anymore as he works in a different prefecture. She now has mental problems and I can't help but feel sorry for her.

Question 5

I'm not sure about activities or groups that they get involved in but I remember reading somewhere that senior citizens in Tochigi prefecture would rather go to prison and live an easy life rather than being lonely at home. The amount of prisoners aged 65 and above over the last 10 years has doubled.

Question 6

No, I haven't even gotten married! However, I can't imagine the feeling of raising children and seeing them leave. I would feel lonely and isolated.

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